Manipulation

This could probably be my favorite thing to point out. When you are hyper aware and do the work on it, you see it in everything. That’s really sad honestly when you think about it.

I keep seeing meme’s and reels this week that hit really hard and I want to share them all but I also don’t want to look like I’m being petty or I don’t need people circulating lies that I’m this sad, stuck woman. I’m not.

I’m frustrated because nothing changes. I’m frustrated that people get off with no repercussions. It’s not even about karma at this point, it’s about the principal of things. It’s about being honest & taking accountability. It’s about being authentic & an actual good person. Not manipulating people’s view of you.

I want to know how other parents handle this kind of situation. How do you lead with thoughtfulness but real life situations? How do you tell someone to stop texting my child like that in a more respectful way than full on momma bear mode? I want to know, why the adult in the situation can’t be communicated with & your go to source all the sudden is my child? Why is your face always giving off the “feel bad for me” look? Why the hell can’t you just admit you were wrong and you should have approached that better?

I feel like I’m walking a fine line in parenthood regarding this and in all honestly, how do you walk through life, trying to help your kids when society is telling you to not spill too many details, talk to them like adults but don’t talk to them like adults. They should know things, they shouldn’t know things.

How the hell do I give them examples when I can’t use the material they are currently being fed!?

I’m just at a loss of words and a roadblock at the moment. I don’t want my kids thinking I have alternate agenda as that’s not the case plus I just am worried there will be a fall out in a couple of years on their behalf. Which then leads me to feel like maybe I should let them be smacked in the face, but then I wouldn’t be doing my part as their mom. Are they going to resent me for pointing out things or am I going to cause them to be in therapy all their lives. Are they going to be mad if I never pointed things out to them which could lead to more therapy. Do I just add a clause in my will that I’ll forever pay for your therapy because I had no clue what I was doing or how to handle things.

OR, odd thought here, stop manipulating people. Stop trying to guilt people. Stop forcing relationships. Be authentic, show up, try your hardest and take accountability when you fall short.