I’m Allowed

You’re allowed to eat first. If everyone scatters when you get home, eat a warm meal before they hound you.

You’re allowed to delegate tasks to your family. No, you didn’t have kids to solely do the chores everyone expects you to do but those chores are also life skills, team building & future planning. Those tasks are a teaching moment every time. You are a family and a team. Delegate the tasks. You don’t have to do them all yourself while everyone sits around.

You are allowed to sit and watch. Teach your kids how to make supper and then sit and watch. Walk them through it, have conversations.

You’re allowed to let your kid struggle a little bit, they won’t learn if you save them all the time.

You’re allowed to use the gym daycare, you’re allowed to let your eldest babysit while you go for a walk, you’re allowed to let them babysit while you go to the gym for an hour. You’re allowed to tell them to make their own breakfast, lunch or supper.

You’re allowed to have a free for all supper if you’re exhausted. It’s ok if you’re not cooking 4 course meals 7 days a week. It’s ok if you’re making 1 meal a week. Are your kids fed, loved & happy? PERFECT! Are your kids all under your roof conversing with you while shoveling food in their mouths? You’re doing great!

You’re allowed to be exhausted, to put movies on for the whole day. You’re also allowed to shove them all outside while you lay in a chair and watch them play with each other and heaven forbid breathe fresh air.

You’re allowed to breathe for crying out loud. As mom’s we are told or quietly taught that everyone else should come before and we do that a majority of the time, but we do deserve to put ourselves first as well.